Tired of absorbing everyone else’s shit? 💩😩💩😩

Are you sick and tired of absorbing the negative emotions, moods, and energies of those around you? Those of us who are Highly Sensitive and/or empaths actually have a lot in common with toilet paper!! Funny, but true. 🚽😂😂😂😂

Think about this: 
- We are soft- in that we have thinner skins, and huge hearts
- We are absorbent - in that we pick up the emotions and energies around us
- We clean up messes - in that we are drawn to help, heal, and be there for others
- We provide comfort - in, ahem, awkward times 💩😂

And it also often feels, unfortunately: 
- That we are used and thrown out
- That we’re taken for granted for how important we are
- That we’re expected to be “soft enough,” yet at the same time “strong enough”

Look at the toilet paper slogans… “angel soft,” “got you covered,” “clouds,” “quilts,” “cotton”…. It often feels like we are expected to be there at all times, ready to clean up icky messes, while still be soft and magical and full of cotton-y goodness and comfort! ☁️☁️☁️😂

Before I became a coach, I worked in the advertising industry for over 10 years. I remember crying on Sunday nights because the thought of walking back into that toxic environment was so overwhelming and painful for me. I had to force myself to get out of bed in the morning every single day. There was so much toxic energy in the offices I worked in - competitiveness, pressure, sharp criticism, backstabbing, gossip… I would come home every night just feeling totally weighed down by all the negativity I had absorbed during the day. The anxiety and stress became so common I didn’t know what mood was mine and what I had soaked up from others. It was just this tangled mess of overwhelm and frustration. It was so draining and painful, yet I felt it was what I HAD to do to survive. I felt I was following the career I was SUPPOSED to. And each day walking in those doors… cringing as I sat down at my desk already dreading the tidal wave of heavy energy I knew would soon wash over me, I felt that I had no choice. I felt that my worth in that office came from my absorbency and ability to SUPPORT. I felt that I had to PROVE I was worthy of being there, in that chair, with that title. I didn’t feel good enough to be doing the work I was doing and so I overcompensated by allowing other people to treat me like literal shit. I thought that would make them like me, and if they liked me then maybe… maybe, I would finally feel good enough to like myself. But all that really happened is that MY worth and MY feelings were flushed down the toilet over and over. 💩🚽💩

But it doesn’t have to be this way! Guess what? You are not a pooper scooper!! 😉 Just because you have the ability to be absorbent doesn’t mean that defines you!! You can learn how to channel your gift (YES, gift!) in a way that works for you instead of against you. There is so much more to you as a sensitive person! So much more worth, so much more talent, so much more skill, so much more resilience! You can still be “angel soft,” without having to be taken for granted. You can still have a huge heart and not let your feelings and needs get flushed away. You can still help and heal without being taken for granted. You can be SOFT and STRONG while loving the shit out of yourself! (See what I did there… 😉😂)

You so desperately deserve the love and respect you give so freely to others! But it starts with you. It’s time for you to see you are so much more. 💛💛💛

Amber RochelleComment